Trumpet, it concerns me when your posts start coming slower/fewer. Maybe b/c I have seen others do that right before they quit posting at all. I realize you must be terribly discouraged and frustrated, and perhaps feel you are getting conflicting advice, IDK. I just hope you will stick with us.
How are you doing with your addiction? This stress must put more pressure on you to cave to the porn. You have the strength from the highest power you can get!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!