Two Wolves

[mleigh4]

Good to hear from you Cali. You have been on my mind so much, I still feel in a state of disbelief. Like Sotto said above, it has really had an effect on me.

Something you said above struck something I think very often about my own sitch. It's not so much the train of thought they get into, that the grass is greener on the other side, that they think they are missing out on a better life....it's the WAY they do it. To string us along, the lies and deceit, to actually hand out strings of hope, just to keep us in place as plan B. I know this is normal MLC script, but it's baffling to me that someone can treat another this way.

Your wife is going to see her behavior for what it is some day, it won't be pretty. The fact she talked to your son about this POS really sums it up. She is one very lost soul.

I am not one to tell people what to do, and you sound to be clear on your thinking, but please get yourself and your son away from her mess Cali. I worry about you, you are such a kind man, but this is, as others have said, abusive. Please don't think her behavior is any kind of reflection on who you are. Her occasional guilt is causing the abusive spews. It's not you!

I am praying you find yourself a home very soon. I know what it's like to live in an expensive area, it makes it so much harder. You live in a beautiful city. Sometimes contacting a property manager can pull up some good deals.

Don't worry about W financial situation either, let it be her problem.

Hang in their my friend, I just know that as soon as you get your distance from this, it will get better for you. It won't be easy, I sense your W will continue to lean on you for comfort and support, you will need to be very strong.

I believe you are ready for this, you have been through so much, I imagine some peace and calm will serve you well. Could that be part of the "why"? Your W has been a bit of a handful, maybe that was all getting you ready to be strong and ready enough for this moment. No one can say you haven't given it your all, and then some.

I admire you so much Cali. Please keep us updated on how you are when you can.