Why in heaven's name do you think she's not wayward? Simply b/c you have seen no evidence of an affair? I went back and looked at your post, just on your first page of this thread, and I could see wayward signs all over the place. Did you read the threads on help for the LBH with a WW? Perhaps you don't see her treating you as nasty as some that I described, but you do have a WW. That's why MC is not going to help her right now.
I lost everything I had copied to show you the various things she was doing, so just look at the last post.
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I was wide awake all night last night, heard her come in talk with her girl friend but she never made it upstairs to our room/bed - she slept on the couch on the main floor. I asked her this morning why she slept on the couch and she just said she wanted to (sure she just didn't want to see me if I happened to still be awake). Didn't really surprise me after the fight we had yesterday. Also, I usually get the kids up, fed and off to school in the morning but I figured this was a good morning to tell her to do it after she partied with the girls last night. Somehow the expectation is that I deal with the kids every morning whether I work from home that day or have to go into the office (which makes me late) while she sleeps in. In fact, she sleeps in every day unless there is a reason for her to get up. If I get up she won't get up to help in the morning.
She is spoiled, immature, disrespectful, selfish, threatening to leave, has an attitude of entitlement, has lost all attraction for her H, acting sneaky, changing passcodes on phone, finding things to blame on the H, sleeping on the couch after being out partying, and is getting worse. She is running the show!
If you don't want to think she's wayward (and what H wants to believe that about his wife), then please see yourself as a nice-guy type of H. B/c you are, and you are catering to her. You may not like how she's disrespecting you, but you continue to allow it. Have you read No More Mr. Nice Guy? Please do.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
