Thanks guys, it is very different from the advice I have received up to this point from other forums. In fact, it is 180 degree difference.

I really need to think hard as to what I am doing.

Me-LBH, 48
Spouse-WW, 48
Married for 19 years
Son, 12
BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding)
BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA)
WW filed D February 2016
WW moved out April 2016