How are you? I first want to say that I am not writing this letter to cause uproar or to place blame. There is no one to blame about the condition of our marriage but my husband and myself. We are both imperfect and have made mistakes. I will not get into specifics, although I am sure you have had an earful of my mistakes. David and I still love each other.
The reason that I am writing this letter is because of my commitment to my marriage. ___________, I know that when you meet someone that is having problems in their marriage that the intentions are pure to be a shoulder to cry on, an ear that listens. Unfortunately, these things do more damage than good for the marriage. You cannot help the marriage or be a friend to the marriage when only hearing half of what is going on. David and I have both made some mistakes in our marriage. I take full responsibility for my mistakes. What I would like you to realize is that had my husband not been talking to you and thinking that things will be just great if I am with this person, he would have never left home. Married people rarely leave home unless they have hopes of connecting with someone else. People are more likely to work on their marriage when there is no 3rd party involved. I see that you two were in contact starting in September and possibly earlier. That leads me to believe that he left with hopes of connecting with you, because you guys were talking while he was going to and from work.
I am going to ask you to close your eyes and put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if you were his wife and a woman on the outside was consoling your husband and she only has his side of the story in mind? It makes him feel confused about his commitment to his marriage? How would you feel looking your son in the eyes while is says, is daddy coming home?
I think that what I am trying to say to you is that my marriage is not over until it is over. We are living separately but that is still my husband. We took vows and they are being violated. The attachment may be emotional and the intentions friendly, but it is still a hindrance to our marriage.
My husband cannot think clearly with someone waiting in the wings for him. I am going to ask you to please give my husband and I the space that we need to make decisions concerning our marriage without a 3rd party being involved. Please respect our union, as you would want someone to respect yours.
Sincerely yours,
Felicia King-Ginyard
If you would like to speak with me, please feel free to call me. My number is 610-457-2214.
