Staying The Course

[broke]

I missed this post before. I sometimes wonder if my H is still in the "fog", too. He told me that he had a connection with the OW from the moment he met her 2 years ago at work. But, it didn't become physical until July. However, he just isn't himself - he is really lost, not logical or rational at all, can't really face what he's done (lying to his family and friends). So, then I think he is still in the fog, but I waver back and forth. I do know that I can't let myself get dragged down into it with him.

You are still at the very beginning of your journey and I felt like I was married to an alien and in the twilight zone for 2-3 months. I promise that feeling does start to wan - I do have a day here and there where it just feels surreal, but I don't focus so much on being in the "zone". I think it is part of the first step to grieving: denial. The more I got out and scheduled things the better I felt. I remember the first "normal" day I had: I celebrated no nap or crying, just paid the bills, had coffee with friends. It felt amazing to jump that hurdle. Now, I have lots of normal days. But, I hate that your friends haven't been there the way that you need them to be. That is where I have been very blessed - I have two friends that have checked on me daily since this started 7 months ago. That is a blessing. Can you reach out to some others and start to build up some more social outings? I do think it really helps....