Just a note....my counselor said the affair fog could be 1-2 years until the infatuation wears off and reality sets in. My H's best friend cheated on his wife for 2 years until she found out. They are now in MC and it looks like he is moving back in soon and they are reconciling. I sometimes wonder if it is because his affair ran it's course.
I don't plan on waiting around for 1-2 years waiting for the affair log to lift though. I am trying hard to really detach and not "fake" it anymore. I know that will take some time, but I want my db'ing to be as much about me as the hope for future reconciliation and then move completely to be the best "me" I can be. I think I was a pretty good catch before. With all the great advice I am getting on here, I think I can really be aware of when I am slipping into past mistakes and be a better wife (girlfriend and mom, too) for wherever my future takes me. I don't plan on wasting this opportunity to become a better "me".
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
