First of all, I hope you get some medical relief from your woes. You sound miserable, and I'm so sorry you're in pain. I also think the pain is making you uncomfortable in other places, and that's natural. That being said, do you need to have this talk or think about scheduling this talk when you're feeling so crappy?
Do you remember the pursuer-distancer phase when DBing? You can DB through this as well. I don't have a magic ball, and I can't see the truth or the future, but from what you've described, I think he sounds scared. (I hate when people get scared and don't talk through it.)
Why not drop your pursuit (without being cranky or cold or doling out punishment) and see what happens? Let him pursue.
If you have to, use feeling awful to tell your D8 that you need some time alone and with her to recuperate because you think it's not a good idea to travel or do anything other than what you need to do to get healthy.
And when you're feeling much, much better, you give yourself permission to have the talk. BTW, when that happens, I'd say what you said here. Be honest and tell him what you want and need, and don't apologize for it. But right now, your first priority is to get better.
BTW, Kat, I didn't kick Murphy your way. LOL, Murphy leaves when he wants to leave and not a moment before. He's a really sh!tty "guest".
DB your way through this, Ginger. Take back your control. You can do this.
Hugs and sorry no narcotics..
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
