Yes, I had to remind myself of the elusive affair fog a few times in the past 48hrs. I just can't believe my H is still in this fog. Which makes me wonder if it is a fog at all. And I think I saw somewhere on your thread that judging from your H's email, he must've read DB/DR b/c he's got it down pat! It's like the DBing is reversed! I've had that thought about my H's responses to me also and how it seems he's read every M saving piece of writing out there b/c it seems like it follows it all...but he hasn't and he doesn't have the same goal as me. Which also makes me wonder, if I react this way to his "perfect" yet indirect DBing, then imagine if I could interact simply with acknowledgment and no emotion....radical idea.
"Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyways."
