This is so weird to me how W can have me there helping at the dentist and be so much a part of her life but still want to S.
Unfortunately it is not weird at all. You are just a helper, a facilitator, you are there for the $shitty jobs and she'll have someone else for the cool stuff. As far as the kids are concerned, it's ok, but other than that, distance yourself. She's a big girl, she can handle it. An analogy would be, if you got fired from your job, would you still do stuff for your boss? Not likely. Well, I got news for you buddy, she just fired you...
Originally Posted By: vise82
We get home and there is a note that a letter that needs to be picked up from the post office, it needs a signature. W tell me oh that must be the letter from my lawyer for you. I say why couldn't you just give it to me. She blames it on the lawyer. I don't want to pick up the letter so I put the notice out of sight. This morning she finds it and puts it out in plane view again.
This is so frustrating, I have no intention of getting this letter. Its frustrating that she can force things along, it frustrating that her parents have paid for this lawyer for her.
Passive aggresive behavior is not the way to go. Ignoring it will not make it go away. Go talk to your lawyer before you fetch the letter, maybe he has some stalling tactics up his sleeve.
Originally Posted By: vise82
It frustrating that she lined up a couple of realtors to look at the house yesterday. And she is excited for this, she wants to talk about it and what we can do to make the sale even faster.
What the F is going through her head to think this is the best thing ever? I understand that WW will not stop till they get what they want.
What is going trough her head you ask? Quite simple really... She has been gathering courage to flip you off for years and now that she has, she feels the weight of the world has been lifted off her shoulders. She is literally gliding trough air. She has it all figured out in her head (and has had for years) and she believes that once you are out of the picture it will be all roses for her. Well the bad news is that she is intitled to her opinion, and the good news is that she is wrong. But it will take time for her to realize that. And no, you can't explain her that she is wrong, you cannot show her that she is wrong, you, my friend, can't do $hit to/for her. So time to focus on you.
Originally Posted By: vise82
What does my W want that I am not giving her? It is all right here for her. I just don't understand it.
Se above answer. It is really not difficult to understand. She is done with you, your marriage is gone, buried. That does not mean that you cannot have a new relationship with your W, but it will take time, a LOT of time, think months and years, not days and weeks.
Originally Posted By: vise82
So she leaves this morning for a six hour drive to visit family for two nights/ three days with the kids and with out me. this is the first time I have not gone. She is telling the kids I cant go because I have to work. Makes me look bad.
Now this you have to put a stop to it. She can't paint you responsible for not coming and you can't let it slide. My sitch is eerily similar to your, ages same, together time same, kids' ages same, only dif is I have a D7. My BD was June 2014, so I'm a year ahead of you.
Originally Posted By: vise82
And she leaves a list of stuff that needs to be done to the house to get it ready for sale. This is all a joke, my life is a joke. I mean life throws so much bad stuff at you, most of which W and I have gone through and now she decides to make some bad stuff on her own, because the world didn't give us enough to go through?
Again, do not be passive aggresive, text your W that you are away for the weekend so stuff with the house will have to wait. An my friend, your life is no joke, it is in a whirlwind at the moment, but it will settle and you will thrive once again. Main thing is that you know that you will be OK. Be the best dad you can be, and learn to love yourself again.
