irish, i'm so sorry you had to take the step of a lawyers letter, and re-live all the pain of the past several months. your valentines day sounds wonderful! you are grieving and that is no only ok, it is healthy. doesn't feel good, but it is healthy.
sending you hugs and support xoxoxo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver