Well work and GAL has been crazy busy the last week. The W left Saturday and told the kids and I that she would be home Sunday evening. She didn't return until Monday afternoon and only stayed for a few hours to play with the kids. I left and went to a friends . She informed me that she will no longer be staying at our house but was "happy to help out with them after school".
Then last night after work and the kids in bed I mentioned that we need to get on the same page and talk to the kids Thursday about what is happening. It was not fair that she just left on Saturday and I've had to come up with excuses for her. Well guess what? She doesn't want to talk to the kids, she said she needs come back home on Sunday. She said the apartment she wanted is not available until end of March-mid April. She was staying at a friends but only for the week. There are tons of apartments available around her, and I called the one she mentioned today and they do have vacancies. Maybe she didn't qualify?
I don't know what to think about this? I am almost certain she spent last weekend with the OM but not sure if she is still staying with him until Sunday (He is from out of town, hotel maybe?) or if she is crashing with a friend. Also don't know what Friend she is staying with, we share the same friends (or so I thought) maybe her therapist? I didn't want to push and look needy.
The only thing I do know for sure is, something in her plan fell apart. She was trying to rush me to settle and sign ASAP, give her $1500 to get the apartment, and she was never coming back to our home as of Monday night. Now she is asking to come back, doesn't want to talk to kids yet, told me not to rush on the settlement counter offer, and said we can talk all about it in the next few weeks?
DB Friends help me understand this game? If I let her back in what boundaries should I set. 1. No fighting or screaming at me, I will never tolerate that again. What else?
