I'm sorry I didn't respond sooner. Oh, I don't think anyone should tell you that you are lucky you guys don't have kids! I don't think divorce is easier just because you don't have children. I think divorce is a death that just keeps going with no closure until there is and it's horrible with or without kids. It's the death of a relationship that you gave your heart and soul to. My 15-year-old calls it divorce cancer.
In my case, I'm letting myself get out of db'ing because I have a bad habit of trying to "fix" things for them because I can see how shattered they are by the A and D. I just figured this out today. It's really my issue because I can't do that. Begging and pursuing him to reconcile actually makes it worse. I'm glad I now realize that and can attempt to stop.
I can understand how you must feel like there's no opportunity to do any db'ing because there isn't a built-in reason to interact. Without my boys, I don't think my H and I would be speaking or see each other. That must be incredibly difficult to determine if anything is even there. I can see all the damage I've done and mistakes I've made because we have no choice but to communicate. How do you feel like it's going?
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
