Honestly don't even try to read his mind. Who knows he might be DB you and act as if :-)! Joke aside I really feel for you as being in limbo land is the worst thing. Take what in going to say with a pinch of salt. What is your situation now? You are separated, so in a way you are D as he doesn't live with you nor he is intimate with you, so as hard and harsh as it sounds it's over.
What keeps you in this limbo are your feelings? If you didn't love him, what wound you do everyday? What would you enjoy doing? What wound you like to try? I don't want to sound harsh as I was there in your shoes not so long ago. I had to convince myself that he was dead. It took me a while for it to sink in and accept that my life has changed forever.
I have found my strength when I found you all in here. I believe we are all feeling down as we feel that we are second hand. We are not, of course we have our issues, so does WAH. Unfortunately we can't deal with them on their behalf.
Why I was in limbo was because I was afraid of being on my own and not being able to cope with everyday life! One year on I'm coping pretty well with everyday life. STBXH being there or not hasn't made any difference, so I know I can cope as I have survived the first year! You too Jujub you can, you already have because it has been 8 months now. Give yourself time to heal.
