I Think it's Way Too Late

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This is very true in my case as well. Initially my MIL was very supportive of our marriage and swore that she will keep us together. She told WW that she would never let her leave our marriage. I was feeling very confident at that point.

It took a month for WW to turn her against me. My MIL ended up secretly funding WW's divorce lawyer behind my back. It's sad because I ended up being betrayed twice, once by WW and then her mother. My trust in her moral compass was misplaced, as blood is thicker than water.

I saw this on your thread. While I'd like to think my case is different, it's probably not. I can say I was best friends with the W's Grandfather, he used to call me nearly daily about this, that or the other thing. I used to be very good with stocks, and I was one of the only people that listened to him without blowing him off as a crazy old guy.

The MIL is a Church Elder, and this goes against everything she holds dear. They also feel a sense of betrayal, as the W had conversations regarding marriage and such when they took an Alaska cruise 8/14. For the longest time the W's running joke was "divorce is not an option - you have to sleep sometime". I sort of wish she had just put a pillow over my face. The W turning her back on her faith was just one of the steps she needed to take in the rewriting of history they seem to all make.

On the flip side, I also know that the MIL being who she is will forgive anyone, including her other D who's very business is as much against Christian doctrine as you can get.

I doubt that she would turn on me, at the same time - and the reason I wanted to see them to say goodbye is they will be inviting my W and eventually the OM over for holidays. At this point I'm not sure I can detach like that. Certainly not by this Easter, which will probably be my first test. They will need to come and get my Mother, and I'm not sure she'd want to be there either.

To see my W looking better than she has in years and years (she's losing huge amounts of weight) and doing this all because of somebody else just puts my heart through a wringer.

The time will come when we are torn apart, which breaks my heart. I've really come to love both of them (the rest of her family not so much - in fact I downright loath most of them) and it's a shame that this is all happening for a d**k.