Bring back the edit button! Thanks Zues, Pinn and RD I've left the text unopened all day. I've thought it over, texted a friend and I think I'll go with: Hi. Thanks for the invite but I'm busy most Thursdays. Maybe some other time. Take care There isn't a reason to come running the first time she is curious. I've got some shopping to do and then out for a game of soccer if it doesn't snow!
Got back the reply: Ok Whenever. Haven't replied, not much to say to that! Think it is time to continue with the NC. I'm only going to initiate contact when I need to, holidays with S and finance. Will continue with GAL. ON Saturday I'm meeting up with some workmates and others for a lunch at one of their houses. Not going to overthink things as I don't know what is going on in her head.
Hi Scrant, sorry I was late to the party. But I see others have already offered sterling advice and I think your response was spot on. Not churlish at all - but not scrambling to gobble up scraps on offer either.
I would think nothing more about it and forge on forwards. If she asks again, just post again and see what the advice is - no need to worry about it in the meantime.
Glad you have nice GAL plans this weekend - enjoy xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Finished soccer to find message from W. Miss you. Good night. Uff. As what? A H or a friend? I've replied gently but not as strong as her, just Good night. Look after yourself. Don't want to read too much into it. Who knows?
Hope that means good stuff for the future! I think you are doing a great job of asking for advice on the boards, being patient and not getting too anxious. Keep us posted.
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ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
Hi Scrant, that's interesting. Maybe she and OM having a wobble....
Thought your reply was fine - 60% of her enthusiasm. Another time, you could miss the message that night & respond next day etc....change it up a little.
Who knows Scrant, she and OM may be back to 'luvved up' tomorrow. Always best to get focus back on to you and expectations zero.
Well done with the self control x
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Thanks for all the advice and support. I'm determined not to overthink this. Who knows? I can't chase, it has never worked before. I'm just chilling with S at the end of the day. I have learnt I can't do anything to change her so I can only try to look after myself and S. I imagine it is too early for any major change. It has only been four months and her infatuation has been going a lot longer than that. We'll see what happens but I don't want to get too optimistic.
ahhh them pesky pesky WW's. They really all are quite similar. Good job Scrant. It is hard not to over think (trust me, I know!) but it will save you a lot of grief. Keep us updated and enjoy that GAL'ing!
