DBD, protect yourself, redirect your pay into the separate account. Do not enable her. Oh how she will spew when you fight back. MAke her do the work for her divorce and make it clear to her. And no, being a "nice guy" will not make her see the error of her ways and fall madly in love with you. You actually not being a nice guy could actually save you a good 6 months or so of your time, before you come to the conclusion yourself...
Also do not go fooling yourself (again) that just because it was (only) an EA, that you are somehow ahead. Women take EA's dead serious and if she's allowed herself to EA, that means you are out of the picture (a woman cannot "feel" for 2 men at the same time). Any bull$hit from her that she's confused and she needs time is just that, bull$hit, and it gives us blokes hope, but in all reality they are just messing with our heads.
Cut her off. Cut her off finacially, emotionally and securitywise. She will in all likelihood want to be your friend after the divorce. WTF? No friggin way am I going to be friends after the divorce. Friendly for the sake of the kids yes, but friends?!? No way Jose!
