I Think it's Way Too Late

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I think one of the reasons the L hasn't contacted me is to try to save money. We're in a holding pattern right now until we can talk with a Judge. I'm assuming that if the judge sees how she's acting, it will go a long ways to improve my standing.

I also have a forensic accountant, so it's like 2 lawyers to add to the fun. I received a large trust inheritance, which was turned into 2 investment properties as well as a retirement fund. I need them to track the money and show there was no commingling of marital assets. The W will be claiming there was, and is lying about an agreement we never made. I know this from her forgetting she shared her cloud docs with me.

The "call the police" wasn't anything that worried me, it was more of a "now I know what has been discussed between them" epiphany. I found it interesting that she went there so fast, after I snapped at her. She knew she was pushing buttons, and knew I'm very upset and stressed out every time I go to the house.

I'm pretty sure that the "yes and no" from the W's L regarding me being locked out will be a no, she can't lock you out unless you've been beating her or she's afraid for her life or some garbage like that. Right now she will apparently say and do anything. I can't help but feel bad for her though. Because seriously - if she does go that route her parents just might never speak to her again. They've known me for 35 years, and know their daughter too. She'd have left a loooong time ago if that were the case.

The W already painted me as being angry all the time to herself and her assistant, something that really broadsided me. I feel there's a difference between sarcasm and anger. Things that she used to think were funny turned into something else. But we all know - the WW has to justify everything.

I see a lot of what Sandi says in me in her WW pointers, and a lot I don't. I will let people push me to a point, and then I dig in and hold my ground. I've made an a$$ out of myself protecting the W from other people, even if I wasn't sure it was the right thing to do. How quickly she forgot those instances. I've never been one to burn bridges, but I did for her on more than one occasion.

One of my favorite sayings is "no is a good answer". Granted, I rarely said it to my W. However it seems she's used any times I have said it against me as well. She's had a good, long time to work this all out in her head. I hate playing defense.