Back again 8 years later

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I will also add that wife has never lived on her own. Among other things it seems like it sounds attractive to her to do so. To be the working single parent gal. She has never been apart from me or our son for more than a weekend or so. With our custody verbal agreement, it would be every other week we get son for 5 days. I have resigned myself to the fact that she wants to move out on her own. She asked if I was going to help pay for place. I really have no choice as she is not actively pursuing the divorce at this time. She has made it clear that she wants one, but sends me mixed messages such as kissing me goodbye, reminisceing about some good times fondly, even when we were talking about her moving out, she asked "and date each other?" I said not necessarily. But, what if I wanted to date you? She smiled and said, "what if"?. I don't know if deep down she is waiting to see if I can indeed get my stuff together again to her satisfaction or if she is just guilty and being nice with the bad news. She is just so closed off to any thinking of making it work. She claims she has thought about our son, but I am not sure she has. I have never cheated on her or even thought about it. Very loyal, hardworking, but like anyone have faults to work on. Laziness has brought me back to loneliness again. I fear this is two strikes and she's out. She asked me " what if when we separate that I find out that I love it?" I said, "well at least I will be in a better place too" As I stated earlier, we were haaving a good time the other night, had a few beers together and were watching a moving when I noticed she was on her phone scrolling like crazy. so I asked her watch she was looking at? She said, "rentals" and then put her phone down abruptly. I thought we were enjoying each others company again but she clearly had her mind on the door. What to do next?Help.

Wow, your situation is eerily similar to mine. My WW went from her parents' house to my house when we got married. She has never lived on her own. Somehow the OM convinced her it is a good idea to leave me. She already file for D so I gave her money to get her own place. It was a hard check to write.