I Think it's Way Too Late

[Painter]

1313, I don't believe she can lock you out of marital property unless she has a court order. Your L seems to agree, but is not on top of *doing* anything about it, it sounds like. What you can do is call the local police station and tell them that your wife has changed the locks on the house and the storage, and that there is no court order allowing her to do so. Ask them what you can do and not do, they will advise you. You can most likely get a locksmith to come change the locks again and give your W a key.

The assistant has no legal standing - she is an employee of your wife's. Her threatening to call the police should not worry you at all - tell her to leave, or *you* will call the police to have her removed from *your* property.

There's a book that's recommended around here called .... It's about how men who try to please, may become passive-aggressive instead without realizing it, and not get the response they want from their surroundings. It doesn't tell you to become a jerk, but discusses how to put proper boundaries in place to get other people to respect you.

Did you know that people who often say yes, are not appreciated? While those who say no frequently, are more respected and then when they say yes, get a great reaction?

I can tell you my H treats me much better when I don't allow him to push me around. He's a demanding person and seems to respect me more when I give him firm boundaries. This is human nature.

Your W is going to walk all over you if you let her. She will not reciprocate any niceness.

I agree that rapport is not necessary with a L, but you need to see action. If you have lost half your retainer and seen no progress in your situation, and everything is still dictated by your W, you should consider moving on.