I Think it's Way Too Late

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Thanks Sandi.

I think my 2 problems here are:

1) I would normally be visiting her Dad, especially as his health is declining. I'm torn as I feel they'll wonder why I've vanished regardless of the M.

2) I take my Mother to the same Church every week, the very same Church the W stopped going to close to a year ago.

I had always assumed they would side with the W, as you say, she is their child. Being so Christian, the MIL naturally desires some sort of reconciliation. She just can't believe her daughter would turn her back on her beliefs. At the same time, she's very forgiving (unlike my FIL) and won't question or push the W one way or the other. What will be will be. The W's sister is very, very similar. Like I said, I went over originally to say goodbye. I didn't expect what happened to happen.

When I do meet the IL's, I never bring anything up regarding the M or the W, and MIL never really asks. The FIL has asked a couple of times - and in some cases the M interjects itself which can be embarrassing. I'm sadly still in protective mode. I had asked to borrow the FIL's pick up truck to go get a table out of our storage locker.

I went over to measure the table before I got the truck, to find out the W had changed the padlock. So, I had to call and say I wasn't going to get the truck but wouldn't say why. When questioned by him later, I really just can't lie and said sadly I had been locked out - just like the home and would have to ask to be let in. So I did, and borrowed the truck about a week later.

I'll do as you suggest, and just let the MIL come over and visit my Mother. If asked, I'll go over there but I won't initiate anything. Her siblings I'm sure are siding with the W, but again - they probably have no idea about what's actually happening unless they've been told.