What did you mean by detachment vs engagement? In what ways was engagement recommended?
Advice I received elsewhere was to engage WW, even after she leaves. Not to be a doormat, but to be a strong husband and father. If she needs help with her computer, go over to her apartment and fix it. If her car breaks down, go and help her out. Being positive and try to show her that I'm a good provider and husband, etc.
I've been doing this after D-Day but it hasn't gotten me anywhere. She's totally fogged out by her 18 year long affair so I am thinking about adopting Detachment as recommended here.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
