I am in the same boat with my H being addicted to his OW. And, unfortunately, it is making me crazy and sabotaging my efforts to db. So, I agree with Thornton, don't contact the friend and detach. I know it is so much easier said than done. And, your imagination about the life he has with the OW just makes you crazy. But, I think the best we can do is detach. Now, if only I could take my own advice....
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
