So READING these other threads I think I need to make some changes on the following. Advice?
I still talk to and hang out with my sister in law. I try not to talk about her brother, just kinda let say I dunno, we will see what happens. The other day when we went to my in laws she made a comment at the family table about how I am ignoring her and never text or call anymore and wanted to know why, because we have always been friends even before I dated my H. LUCKILY I had just texted her that night. I was like I talked to you last night silly.
Do I still keep trying to be semi distant? or stay close to my inlaws, bil, sil etc?? My inlaws complain they never see-hear from me as much and they don't like it.
I am starting to spend a lot of time with my WAH, ALONE. He will come over while the kids are napping(he knows when they nap. SAME time everyday), there is nothing to do but hangout with me. So he will come to whatever room I am in and want to hangout. Watch tv, play his video game etc. If I leave the room, he follows. I can read a book in my bed and he will come in and want to watch netflix in our room. I will stay for 5-6 mins, get up, use the bathroom, then go to the couch. He will wait 15-20 mins then decide he wants to play a video game in the living room now on the couch next to me. This is on days when it is my turn to have the kids, I can't really leave since I don't know how long he plans on staying to visit and then it is almost always between nap and dinner, so I need to get dinner ready in an hour or so.
Do I need to create MORE distance even though we have a ton, since I do not see him often but when I do we are together for maybe 1-3 hours alone time? I already do not call or text, unless he calls-texts me. I always try to hang up first. I try to make the distance but do I need even more? He doesn't miss me( How could he?) since he talks to me everyday and sees me a few times a week.
Am I just sucking at boundaries still or is this something different I am not doing right?
