He snapped at me over being indecisive so that's a 180 I'll be working on. He asked something and I said "whatever you want is fine" and he got frustrated. He just wanted me to make or accept his decision. So, that's a good 180 for me to work on just for the future for myself. I hate that same thing when people say "whatever you want" because it's pressure to make the right decision for someone else. Aside from making the right decisions for D4 I don't want to make decisions for anyone else anymore.
I have this same problem. I am SUPER indecisive. The other day when my H let me know he is 99.9% MOVING 45-60 mins away for a few MONTHS to house sit a friends house I did the same thing you did. I tried not to cry(he told me in the car.) I said I didn't want to talk about it and he got frustrated. I said you made your decision so what does it matter. If that is what you want to do then fine..etc It is HARD so hard to not want to be defensive and upset when our wah throw some crazy idea they are going to do regardless of how we feel. Right then I had accepted if he is going to move that far that we should be done and not wait any longer for the D. It was horrible, I was so upset all day and just tried to hold in it. I feel you pain girly.
My WAH does the same of how many times do I need to tell you I will not change my mind blah blah when he brings up the D. We haven't talked about it since but in one argument in early January he told me I can be in denial ALL I want but it is happening. I think it is more of them reassuring themselves of, this is what I want and if I say it enough times out loud then it will come true.
Originally Posted By: thornton
Hey Roar,
It's only over if you want it to be.
My opinion - you need to attract him again. You can't talk any sense into him. You have to be confident and sexy like when you first met him. Have some swagger when you are around him.
Dont offer friendship or tell him you have feelings for him. Dont pout. Remember - you are a sexy young woman, act like it! Fake it if you have to (without overdoing it).
Show him what he's risking losing! Get focused! Start working out and getting in awesome shape! Strut it!
NO man wants to lose a woman (even if he says he doesn't think he loves her anymore) when she is hot to trot!!!
Get back in the game!
I LOVE this advice from thornton. I am taking this advice as well because It sounds like really good advice! I am trying this right now.
YOU ARE DOING GREAT lovely! I think we both had great turn around days after our bad days. I took your advice with letting things go that normally would frustrate me. Made me day way easier. Instead of being annoyed, I just took a breathe, told myself to get over it, and moved on.
Fingers crossed for a great day again for you <3
xoxo Red ps- I hope all my quotes and colors come out right. I am trying to do this from my computer so I hope it doesn't turn into a hot mess when I press submit!
