Thanks Rotts. H does and says things like he wants the M but won't just come out and initiate R talk. Is this normal? We have been Separated 4 months. The 1st 3 were me just basically pressuring him to come home. About 2.5 months into it, he said , I want a D. I did a 360. No Talk of D since then. I ask no questions about possible OW. The more I don't ask the easier it becomes. I fight the urge and fell good about myself after i get past it.
I think he is pissed because he notices all of these changes and he can't find a valid reason to say let's get a D! He said why did it take me to leave for u to change. I told him there is growth from all crisis. Usually the best part of your M is after you get through the crisis. They say people who give up because of crisis never really get to experience the joy of a strong loving M because they run to avoid conflict.
One good thing, H never denies loving me. He says INLY,but ILY. We all know that The latter is what is important because IN LOve is only infatuation or lust of a sort.
