Anita, I think that having R talk right now is no good for us. The other thing that I have to learn to do is not apply everything that he says to our M, unless we are talking about our M. I use to take things that he said all the time and turnit in to something else so for me that is more of the same. IT was a 180 for me to not say anything and just say, Can you give me a massage. In other words, I am not going to get in to that with you...Next subject!
I am thinking about just holding his hand and looking into his eyes to tell him that I forgive him for all past mistakes and blame him for nothing. I will do this w/no expectations, but so that he knows I have forgiven you.
My husband is a bit immature w/a huge ego and a lot of foolish pride. He had a PA nad only speculates I had an A and is walking around being so self righteous. That really drives me crazy! How dare you say I threw our M away? What did you do when you had an A? Cheris our M? ARGHHH
