1313, I am so very sorry all this has happened to you. I have felt many of the same things. Valentine's Day should be outlawed for the power we give it when the people we thought loved us choose to spend it in bed with someone else. It's all just a stupid day but it hurts, it really hurts.
I understand your reaction in quickly wanting to leave your home, and I hope you can get back there ASAP. People on here advised me to stay at home, but I couldn't. The house is in her name. Now I live in a room and ow has taken over my old life and it makes me ill..

As far as my life goes, I will continue to GAL. I've been too sad to be alone so a friend cooked me dinner on Tuesday (meltdown day) and I was so exhausted she let me sleep on her couch. I was grateful that I didn't have to go back to the little green room I now call " the place where I live." I'm there now, after about 6 hours of sleep. Not bad. So how do I stay sane? My therapist suggested deep breathing. 3 counts in, hold 3, out 3. Repeat as long as it takes. She also suggested I tell friends that when I'm in a panicky state, they can help by reminding me to breathe. I find shouting skanky ow's first and last name separated by a word that rhymes with ducking helps a lot, too.

Last night I asked no fewer than a dozen people if they were free for dinner until I finally found a friend who was available. Sometimes that's what it takes to not be alone. She was going for a run, too, so after dinner I changed into running clothes and we did a trail run in the dark for 30 min. That helped a lot.

And Friday is another basketball game and I've lined up a cute gal to accompany me. This one is actually closer to my own age so it can't hurt if W sees me with her. And this friend is recently going through her own breakup, so she knows the score. And I'm so glad to have her company.

So it's all good. I suppose.

And back to you 1313, you never know what will happen next, or if your W will find her way out of the fog soon. Listen to the good advice you'll hear, follow it as best you can, forgive yourself for the mistakes you'll make, and be oh so patient. It might just work. At the very least you'll find new friends here.

11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker
Reconciling since late April 2016
Don't give up until it's time, then move on
Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat