Help!

[CWOL]

Thanks guys. I will order the books and start reading.

I've been following the advice of another website, and read several of the marriage advice books, but a lot of the concepts are the same. The worst part was I was doing all of the recommended steps about being a better husband, etc., but I could sense no change in WW's hostility. That's when I started to dig deeper and found all the deceit and gaslighting she was doing behind my back. The most disappointing part was she was able to turn people who were initially supporting our marriage to supporting her divorce.

She has filed and I've been served last week. She is still in the house but is about to move out. I am conflicted whether to detach or to continue to try to be a good husband (even though she stopped being a good wife long ago).

Part of me really like the Detachment recommendation, but another part of me feel that WW would be more drawn if I were helpful, even during the divorce process. I'm sure this faces everyone who comes here. I am just so sick of the lying and deceit, and the rewriting of history that has been occurring since D-Day. It [censored] that the one who cheated and was unfaithful has so much power over the innocent spouse. I admit, I definitely fall into the bucket Sandi wrote about.