I think everyone is different, and entering relationships for different reasons. Heck, the lady that lives next door to my Mom is divorced, recommended my attorney. And, the second week I was here, came sniffing around.

The way I feel right now, I will never trust another woman as long as I live. To think of all the times women at work or other places hit on me and I never, ever thought about it for even a second. I wasn't even flattered. Little did I know.

And even as angry as I feel sometimes, when I hear people talking bad about the W I get upset - I'm still in protective mode. The same person who'd shove a knife in my back given half the chance.

Yeah, for me a year would be too soon the way I feel now. But it's been 30 years. When the W moved out 17-18 years ago for a few months - I could have cared less. She was having a relationship and I was glad to see her gone. I should have taken that cue then. Heck, I should have taken the first one when she was cheating before we got married!

can you say character flaw?

Anyway, more power to anyone who feels they can move on regardless of time. Certainly, if it's not necessarily a serious commitment - you might move through some of your baggage by the time it is.

I know what I did wrong in my relationship - and had even changed most of it. But the W didn't see that. Fine. I've improved myself and feel better for it.


Me: 58
Her: 59
Kids: 0
Dog: 1
ILYBINILWY: 9/15
D Bomb: 1/11/16 (found out filed)
Verified OM: 1/11/16
Moved out: 1/11/16 (thought it was temporary)