Agreed...I don't think my H opens up to many people because he wants the validation but knows that he is so wrong he won't get it. And, unfortunately, the one person he does talk to has been cheating on his wife for 3 years. Yet, he ended it the A and they are going to MC to save their marriage. He should be the perfect person to tell my H to stop what he is doing and try to save the marriage. But, he just listens and tells his wife he thinks my H is "delusional to leave me and my kids". It sounds like your H was doing similar thing - just avoiding talking about it to many people. They just don't want to hear that what they are doing is wrong. What use is a good friend if they are only going to tell you what they want to hear?! I also think validation is leading my H to follow through with the divorce. In order to validate his opinion that the M was doomed (even without the affair) he has to prove to everyone that our marriage was filled with problems (that never were discussed until after the A started).
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
