Not a pedestal at all. My guess is you are like me. I feel awful about not expressing how much I loved my life. That I didn't intend to take my marriage for granted. That my H and I both made my mistakes. The heartbreaking part is not having the opportunity to learn from those mistakes and building a stronger union than ever before. That's the part I'm struggling with. I know we could b great again if given the chance. But H is not interested unfortunately. Is that similar to how you feel?
I feel this way exactly. And to Otw's point, friends/family can say/not say whatever they want but the WAS is going to do what they want to do regardless if it's against everyone's better judgement and they've been presented with supporting reasoning and facts. My brother-in-law has been talking H off the ledge for over a year now (that's how long H says he hasn't been happy), and H tried in his own way but still left. And I've heard from various sources that they don't even know who this person is and they can't believe it. But yeah, will they stand up and say do what you have to to give it a fighting chance?
I wish more than anything in the world that H would be open and vulnerable with me, allowing me to share how I've recognized my faults. I pray everyday that he recognizes his own faults and is vulnerable with me about them. I would give anything to have another chance at rebuilding my marriage with H.
"Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyways."
