Staying The Course

[broke]

HopeRB,

I also felt very hurt by friends of both my H and myself that weren't "sticking up for me" or telling my H that he is making a huge mistake fracturing his family and having an A. Unfortunately, I don't think men are prone to giving advice to one another like women do. In addition, I don't think my H was telling the truth. Finally, I think some people just don't know what to do by being stuck in the middle, so they do nothing. But, I will say telling lots of people my side of the story may have helped me "vent" but it has not helped encourage a reconciliation by my H. In fact, it has harmed it because he feels I have turned many mutual friends against him. So, what about joining some other activities instead? I joined a divorce support group that helped me realize that there are several people in the same situation as me. I also joined a ladies golf group which has been a ton of fun. It has pushed me out of my comfort zone but I look forward to both groups for different reasons. Someone suggested on my thread to do an activity that I always wanted to do that my H didn't. Every little bit of distraction that you enjoy I find helps. Sometimes its just getting up and out the door that is the most effort.