Wow. This has been a great read. I think I fall into this nice guy category. W and I have had many issues over the last 10 years, lots of on/off periods and her having an A. Each time I’d take her back with open arms.

The difference this time is I’m actually thinking about D myself.

My question is this… how do I put my foot down? Her latest complaints are that I don’t care for her enough. I don’t help with the kids enough. I don’t make sure she’s cared for. My initial thought was to 180 this and “win her over.” But after reading this thread I second guess myself. I’m open to ideas.

M34 W35
S5 S2
T10 M6
on/off over the years including her A
Recently-
Nov 2015 bomb
Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling
Feb bomb
March-April Reconciling
May - bomb
Mid-May I tell her I'm done