B/c she's a mess, just like I was. There is a lot of turmoil going through her head. She wants to keep of the advantages of being M to you, but she doesn't want the disadvantages.
Your job is not to tell her how she feels. It's not to tell her what she needs. Your job is to get out of her way and let her crash and burn! Harsh? Maybe, but as long as the H is there to help her and protect her, trying to tell her what she should do.......it is holding her back from experiencing the losses and facing her reality as it is........instead of staying in her fantasy she's built.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
