Well, this past session hasn't been much help at all. Mostly the DB coach just said to keep showing gratitude, which H rejects. I did find one thing to connect on... I admitted to him that I have been vacillating in my thoughts about what to do. He actually had some appreciation of that. Often our talks come down to, "You're not obeying/submitting by doing exactly every single thing I want, including reading my mind". Me: "I'm trying, I need help with this, etc.". The DB counselor only suggested offering gratitude more: such as thankful that he is trying to communicate, appreciating his efforts, leadership, etc. H rejects that every time. He says I keep making everything about me. The counselor actually encouraged that - keep talking about my positive stuff. That seems counter to what other DB concepts suggest. I'm so sick of the confusion on this. It contradicts itself. I know I'm dense and slow to learn (curses!) - what else can I do here???
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
