Thanks Thorton. What you said makes total sense. It would be a way to bandaid the hurt.
I was thinking about this before the sitch last night, I think the long phone call last night just made me realize I miss the human contact.
As for her being destroyed, I have talked to IC about that a bit. By jumping into A she hasn't grieved for this R and she will then grieve for 2 or just move on to a third R. I don't really care. Her mind is messed up and I don't want to attempt to understand it.
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.