Originally Posted By: Mozza
I could see why WW needed me. Now, GF is so balanced that I don't see the problem to which I'd be the solution. My IC says that "relationships are symptoms", meaning that they reflect our mental state. So if I found someone balanced, it's a pretty good sign. I'm making efforts not to let my demons tell me that she's too good for me, that she'll find someone better balanced, that she'll find me lacking, etc. I just take a deep breath and tell myself that she likes me, that all is good and to enjoy it while it happens.

Awesome, insightful post, Mozza. I'll pass along some advice that Mach1 gave me when I started dating my new guy, and had those same sort of fears (and new guy and I are both fixer-conflict-avoiders so it was doubly scary). Mach said to not try to define our R or give it a name, but just to enjoy each other and see where it goes. This sounds promising! Best wishes to you!


Linda

Me 65, Ex 64
M 38 y
2 adult S, 4 G-Kids
MLC 11/07
BD 12/09
D 3/14
Dating nice guy 7/14
Engaged to nice guy 12/17