Stepping in a Different Direction

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Divorce is just as real of a loss. Right now you aren't divorced. Your marriage is sick. You're no where near in a spot to be either single or at peace.

So I'd urge you to commit to the 1 year rule, to look at all of your desires to go find happiness elsewhere as a sign of where you need to grow, and to stand by your vows like you expected him to. Act with the character you wish he had. If you can't, it's not fair to expect him to.

Sometimes I think, who are these people that would get involved with a married person?

Then I think, who are these people that would get involved with OP when they are married?

But I always go back to, who are these people that would allow themselves to remain emotionally attached to a married person that would get involved with OP?

Zues, these are both quotes that you wrote very recently. Don't the parts highlighted in blue contradict each other? In one you're telling Feyth to stand by her man as if he were sick. This written from the standpoint of someone who doesn't think think people should get divorced and should just wait it out and hope the WAS comes back. The other statement is written as if you think that waiting for someone that is cheating on you is means that there must be something wrong with you. That sounds like it's written by someone that thinks once someone cheats on you it's an absolute dealbreaker. Just looking for some clarity on your thoughts here.