The start of my Happiness 3

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(((((Tyler))))) I am so sorry that happened to you. I know you try not to have expectations, but still have some and that's understandable. I also know that you NEVER expected to see OM there with your W and kids. That is such a painful thing to have to go through. Your wife was heartless to do that so early on in your separation. Just cruel. That's what I thought when I saw my X drive off with another woman, and my kids were in the back seat of his truck. We were already D but it didn't matter. It's the thought of someone else thinking they are going to step into YOUR spot as the parent. The thing is, you don't even know if he wants that job. He just happened to be there in her car. It was years ago, but I still remember every time a new woman would come into the picture, it made me so mad. I always tried to tell myself it was because I didn't KNOW her and what if she wasn't nice to my kids. But, it really boiled down to the fact that I was jealous. I was jealous that he moved on, even though I moved on FIRST. I was jealous that another woman was going to be around my kids and I didn't ever want my kids to think she was their mom. I was just jealous of the whole situation. My kids were in the car with HER. I couldn't stand it. Eventually it did get better but not until one of the women actually took the time to call and talk to me on the phone to set my mind at ease. It worked as I never worried about them leaving with her in the car. I never did let anyone but H or his older son pick up my kids. When it was proposed to me, I always said no. Never wavered from that, but that's just me. You will eventually find your way with this, but it stinks and it's just another painful thing that we are forced to have to deal with.

As for your response to her weather update, I LOVED IT. Just cut her off and leave her standing there talking to herself. Whether or not you've moved on, that would have certainly given me the impression that you didn't want to be around me any more. LOL. You didn't allow her to reel you back in not one single inch. I was totally kidding when I told you to drop MY rope, but holy cow, you dropped it right on her foot and took off running. Way to go!