Mozza's own success story

[Mozza]

I'm in the mood for weekly updates these days, so here goes.

I had a lovely Valentine's Day. Quite different from last year's where I hung out alone, thinking of WW. This time, I spent it with New Girl, a mere five weeks into knowing each other, and we had a good time. She was back from a 3-day retreat and I brought ingredients to cook dinner at her place. I gave her tickets to a show with a tongue-in-cheek card that read "This shows that I plan to still be with you 3 weeks from now". We've had the "we're exclusive" discussion already but not really the "can I call you my BF/GF?" yet. We're planning a weekend get away two weeks from now, at a cottage with a fireplace and all. It's evolving.

I'm still getting my head around someone who seems so balanced. WW didn't have the same "common sense" as me or most people I know for that matter. But New Girl does and things seem so much simpler. She's also 12 years older than WW was when I met her, so that counts (she's 1 year older than WW). I told her that after my S, I was intent on being better at relationships, that I would be open to talk and try things. It was important for me to state it.

There's almost nothing to say about WW. We communicate in short sentences about the kids. She told me D7 wanted to have new knitting needles so I went and bought them right away. It's rare that I volunteer for these things, in part because I work from home so I don't go near the shops. I paid a short visit to the kids at school. D4 asked who was picking her up and when I said her mom, she said "It's always mommy! I don't want to go with her, I want to go with you!" Honestly, I don't put much into this statement - she's usually happy to see her mom. Maybe she's trying to tell me what she thinks I want to hear. In any case, as my reporting here shows, it was still sweet to hear that she likes to be with me.

Zues126 | Thanks for the visit! You're right, it's important for each person to find their own path out of this hell. It involved a lot of changes and facing fears I had avoided in the past, but obviously it was worth it. And the work-in-progress continues.

Vanilla | I'm a fan too! I'm delighted that you still stop by to say hello. Your resilience is impressive.