Help- I just want to say thanks for responding. My husband and I are still ML. More now than when he lived w/me. He seems to be always rearing to go
He use to aske me to things for him (like strip show) I Have been doing some of those things. At 1st he said that it seemed like i was just doing it to get him back home. Noiw he is asking for me to wear certain things and do certain things.He continues to tell me that he loves me.

We had a bad counseling experience and he was totally turned off by it. When he 1st left he said it was too late and he didn't want to work on R! No R talk in about 5 wks. Yes, he does blame it all on me. It is all my fault. His A and mine(he only speculates mine) i never admitted and Counselor said not to.

I think that he is frustrated with M problems
He notices change but not sure they will stick

I also can not shake the feeling of maybe an EA going on(no proof) He stays w/his mom and is never missing in action. I see him atleast 4xs aweek becase of our 10 year old son and his many activities. I ask no questions about if Ow(anymore that is) I haven't in about 1 month. its killing me but i think it is killing him that i dont ask any questions.

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H has not mention D in about 1 month
H is intiating Ml all the time
H wants to know why I am online all the time
H called and asked if I could take my son to B-Ball practice because uhe was going to play B-Ball(let me know his whearabouts)
I came home from a metting and he and S were eating take out. H asked had I had something to eat yet.
We had arobbery in the neighborhood and he said that if anyone is supicious or bothers me to call him because he would kill someone over me(does this sound like a man that wants a D?
H said do you really think I would let someone hurt you?
Reassured me by saying Honey, there is no one else, no one else ids taking care of me. That reassurance came without me asking for it. I haven't asked every since.
Said he had to scold a couple of children (neighbors for bad behavior) does this means he still feels connected to home?
H camwe over and changed all batteries in smoke alarms
H called at 1am and said what is S doing? Sleep of course but I know he wanted to talk to me.He offred to tell me that he had just gotten in from watching the fights.he wanted to know how I spent my day.
I called him on a SAt nite he asked whre I was and offered to tell me that he was w/mutual friends
Mutual friend said he asked her if S and myself still palnned on going to Disney this summer
H was on his way to drop S off, he called me and asked if I wanted him to bring me something to eat
My sister and brother said that he calls them off and on(is he trying to stay connected?)
I took S to a party for his brothers step daughter and he called when he was on his way and asked me if I were still going. I said yes and he said i will meet you there.
It was a skating party so i put on skates and joined kids(180 for me)
He was standoffish while there but when it was time to go he asked if we were ready(although we came in separate cars.
H came in morning to take S jogging and said can you make us breakfast? I said yes and he said your a good baby. He use to say that all the time!
I bought him a piece of strwberry shortcake and he said thank you so much honey(pet names slipping out)
He came back that night to ML but didn't stay(not sure why he doesn't stay)
He stayed once and the other times he hangs around for a while and then goes back to moms.
I goy home from work Tues and he has a load in the washer, cooking something to eat and lying on the couch wrapped in a blanket. I said what is wrong and he said he was sick. I made hi some Tea and he slept for a couple of hours and took son to B-Ball practice.
My sister-in-law said he told them to come over to the house Saturday morning after ny S B-Ball game and she said is W going to be there and he said I have a key and she said I know that but I just wanted to make sure I am gonna have company. Is khe beginning to fell more comfy at home? Inviting people over?
Sorry so long . please help. any advice is appreciated.

Thanks,
Nitaf

I know that this is lenghty but can someone tell me what I should do from here? still no R talk and why is he sometimes standoffish outside of the home?