So she has seen that the boys need her and she has proposed that she will be here most of the time but have me keep the boys on the weekends. She came up with a schedule for the next 4 weeks.
While she is gone I do not plan on doing her duties unless I absolutely have to.
Due to the issues that the boys are having at school and the way they are acting she is coming back to take care of them but on her schedule. Do I tell her she needs to be back full time or don't come back at all? If I do that, it will only turn into an argument that she will want to start and will continue to blame me.
As my DB coach has stated, get her to negotiate with me. Although she has seen changes in me, I have seen changes in her also. Although it may not seem that negotiating is the right thing to do, it has drawn her back to the marital home to do her duty as a mother even though it may not be full time.
Although her requests of me may seem frivolous to most people, they are important to her and not unreasonable requests to me. Don't know if the changes will save my M but she does see me differently now but she is still a roller coaster of emotions.
I am trying to keep my emotions out of the picture. To be honest, I did not think that she would be back this soon or offer to come back at all.
I don't know how to bring up my boundaries. How do I say them to her?
My boundaries would be as follows:
Cut off contact will all OMs "fiends". How do I get her to prove that she has?
When she was back she took care of things that a mom should.
The only other thing I would like from her is to treat me with respect. This weekend she started to just order me around. Everytime she did this I would stop and look at her and ask her to say please. She was frustrated at first because I would not do what she asked and walked away. She then quickly changed her tune and started to say please. She asked me why I was treating her like that and I told her it was rude that she was ordering me around and since then she always added please to every request.
I don't mind doing things I just want to be treated as an equal.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
