She's thinking of leaving again 3

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Hi Scrant, that sounds fine to me and try not to doubt yourself. Let's look at this from both your angle and from her angle.

From her angle, she has chosen to end the M with you and jump into a R with someone else. Choosing that path brings consequences, one of which is your betrayed husband doesn't want to be best chums with you. I would allow her to feel that consequence.

From your perspective, it is going to be most helpful if you can detach from her poor choices and attach to a rich and full new life. I know the loss of her is hard, and it isn't going to help you move forward if you are to-ing and fro-ing with her on a chummy, frequent text basis. Coparenting and practicalities with the odd pleasantly thrown in is my view.

You can always add in a touch more breeziness if you want - Hi W - yes I'm good, thanks for asking. Busy at work & doing some new stuff. Take care

But that's as far as I go. Others might say go dark & ignore any text like that from her that isn't business. But I've never managed the whole ignoring thing. I'm too much of a nice girl! Plus your W isn't in frequent contact, so a brief and breezy reply seems fine to me. I think it's a baby step to have her contact you like that - looking over her shoulder perhaps? But I would not dwell on it any further and would move solidly forward.

How's your footie going? any more GAL plans in the offing?? Xx