Sandi's Reflections

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Sadly, I see an awful lot of what's happening to me here. I'm a nice guy. However, I've always defended her to friends and family, often making myself look like an idiot. But always doing nice things for her - going out of my way - which went from being totally appreciated to loathed.

Yes, the OM has a lot to do with this, but I've often felt she is doing these hateful things to help justify her actions. Because the story changed.

The "walkaway" is part of the negotiation process, don't do any deal you're not willing to walk away from. The fear of loss is what keeps people from walking away. Yet here, I'm scared to death to walk away.

My issue is that I am so cut off from my wife - no kids and communicating through lawyers - I'm not sure anything I do will be noticed by her. She strikes back at me through her assistant, as I have to beg for access to my home to get things. Even that I think I'm done with until we split the marital assets.

You're right about her being unrecognizable to her family, her Mother and Father are on my side and can't believe what she's doing. You put it into terms I would never have thought about, but I think you're spot on in your analogies.