B's Bootcamp v3

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2.) A secondary question that is multi-faceted. Obviously my wife has lost complete respect for me, and even in her own words 'emasculated' me. She has threatened court action and taking the kids 100% custody and all of that, as has been previously discussed.

My question is about how I should be acting from a legal, business, pro-active stance.

I have been basically taking the stance of 'taking no action' so as not to rush or escalate anything beyond where it should be. However, it has come up a couple of times in conversations with friends, that perhaps I should take pro-active action and seek a lawyer to delineate our separation agreement formally. Does taking the first step on this make a difference?

Also, on the living situation. I know I need to get a bigger place. The complex I'm in is very nice, but it is an apartment complex, which is a step down from living in a house. I signed a 1-year lease, and at this point to cancel that least will cost me two months rent. Not to mention, that in general the 2 or 3 bedroom townhouses that I have found are quite a bit farther away from the kids house. Does anyone think that me simply switching my lease in the current apartment complex from a 1 bedroom unit to a 2 bedroom unit is an inadequate solution for the next 12 months? I'm trying not to make any rash decisions, and want to be financially responsible as much as I can, because I'm honestly worried about what types of expenses I may have depending on how hard my WW and her family come after me.

So, if I switch to a 2 bedroom, 2 bathroom apartment with a sun-room, that should be adequate for 3 kids in part-time custody right? If not, do you think a 3 bedroom would be adequate? A three bedroom unit would be a lot more expensive and for half the time would be completely overkill. I don't know. Curious to hear your thoughts.

Thanks,

B