With that said, don't blame her for his actions. She can only control herself. Explain that you're a team and that she can't try to protect you. You have to be together on this. Share all information. You are her confidante on how to deal with this affair at the office, not him. He's nothing. He's never to contact her again. Block him on all technology. If looking for another job is an option then she should do that. I understand sometimes that's not feasible but if it is then it removes possible obstacles to you two fixing your M.
