I understand releasing anger towards her will not do anything positive. I am not going to bring up the subject with her every time I talk to her either.
I am going to remind her from time to time and in a calm undemanding fashion. Venting here is the best way to release the stress I find and it stops me from doing stupid things like pestering her or bringing up the subject to her family who I still talk to.
To clarify I don't talk to her family about R at all, I did and it didn't help. Her mom and I have a great relationship and MIL has said many times she still considers older 2 her grandchildren as well.
Anyway, yes Thornton, as hard as it is sometimes not to jump down her throat with my frustration in the end it's not what I want to do, I more want her to realize the stress she is causing, it won't be soon. Just hope she pulled her head out of whatever orfice she has it shoved ip
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.