Wife is in love with another man

[shreeve]

Thanks broke / Thornton. I'm not sure what it was Sunday, we had a pleasant talk about getting the divorce finished and everything. I imagine I will always care about her and want her to do well. Just something I saw in her eyes, an ugliness / sadness or something, that gave me a lot of peace with the whole divorce thing. She even was going back on her word about giving me the house, and it didn't surprise me at all. Same stuff from years ago when she was having the drug issues. It was the first time I realized that I do not want to be married to this person.

Broke, keep in mind that I have no children involved, I think that makes things much more difficult. I too lost a lot of weight, 45 lbs so far and it keeps coming off. I am able to fit into a great wardrobe and feel like a million bucks every time I get out and about. I am feeling very comfortable in my "singleness". Maybe finding much more hope in my new single life than I do with my reconciliation? The future will just be much brighter for me with someone else, or even no one else. I've met people with similar interests, and am just having a lot of fun.

Yes Thornton, when we started dating she was on probation actually. Turns out she was not "clean" and we broke up and it inspired her to get into AA / NA and she cleaned up. We got married about 2 years after she was clean. I did notice a lot of parallels with her behavior back then and her behavior now. The same irrational justifications / lack of consideration / lack of dependability. I hope this new relationship works out for her, but I do have some concerns about it. She's a smart woman and a good judge of character, so maybe the guy is a good one. I just feel much better about things now, and can look fondly on our growth as a couple, everything we've accomplished / experienced. We had some great times together. It sure didn't feel like "things will get better" for a while there, but after getting out and GAL, things are definitely on the upswing. I'm a performer, and my bookings are picking up, so it's fun work and also very social. It certainly helps me meet a lot of people on a regular basis. I'm still going to IC and support group, and plan to stay with that, even if I cut it down to bi-weekly. Will check with IC for his opinion this week. Like I said, not sure how the whole "legally" divorced thing will hit me, but I have such an amazing support system in place, that I know I will get through that as well.