So sorry you are here 1313 but be glad that you found us. This site is an incredible resource. I can tell that you've already done your research and you know what you need to do so just get started. Come and post often; we are here for you. It will be painful and working through the DB process won't take away the pain. But it does give you a path forward. Regardless of the outcome of your M, you've got to take care of you and the DB process will help you.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing